When recent polls asked what men and women would most like in their relationship, the resounding response was happiness. Is your love relationship a happy one? If it is not, then what exactly is a happy love relationship? This article tries to answer this pressing question. It will teach you how you can be guaranteed that your love relationship will bring you happiness.

As relationship advisor, I often hear men and women say they are happy with their love life. Behind closed doors, however, the same people who say they are happy with their love life admit that they are not. For many years, I have heard people say that although they are unhappy with what they have, it is better than being alone. Women, in particular, say it is too difficult to find a good man.

Certain steps are required to find the love relationship that will make you and your partner happy. Here are five simple steps to help you find the happiness that eludes you.

Step 1. Acknowledge that you have not been successful at relationship. This is key, because admitting that something is not right automatically programs your brain to bring about change. Denial, on the other hand, will keep you making excuses.

Step 2. When you have acknowledged the truth, you are now ready to finally succeed. Begin by finding love in the right places. What I mean here is a change of habit. I have put some of my clients through this process, and the result has been very rewarding for them. It also brought me much joy to know that somehow I have helped them find happiness.

Step 3. Seek your love relationship with the right person, your twin soul or what I call your soulmate. Here is why. Twin souls are two people who were created for and with each other in mind. They are parts of each other. This is why people may feel alone even if they are in a love relationship if it is not with their soulmates.

Your soulmate was created by a higher power, and it is only this higher power who can lead you to the person. Acknowledging this is a very important part of recognizing your soulmate. Because if a higher power created a twin soul for you the same higher power has created a way to bring the two of you together. This is so very important, I cannot stress it enough. I have gone through the process myself and know this from personal experience. So you have met a love interest, are dating or even in a relationship. You must do your part to recognize if you are each others soulmate or not. After that the next step, step 4 is the most important part of the process if you want assurance that you and your love interest were created for each other and that the relationship will work.

Step 4. Wait for a confirmation. When two people meet, the only way they can know they are soulmates is by receiving a confirmation. Confirmation comes in a variety of ways. Because soulmates were created for each other by a higher power, the same higher power will give you a confirmation. To make this point clear, I will ask you to see yourself as a mother. You have several cups in your cupboard. You ask your child to bring you a tea cup. Your child goes into the cupboard, where there are many different kinds of cups. The child takes one cup and brings it to you. You, the mother, will know whether your child has brought you the right cup. You then confirm the child’s success by letting the child know the cup is the right or wrong one. Likewise, your higher power will let you know if your man or woman is the right one.

Step 5. Finally, you must do your part. A higher power created a soulmate for you and will lead you to your soulmate and give you a confirmation when the two of you meet. The rest is up to you. It is important to understand that it is up to you to accept or not accept your soulmate. It is up to you to date, to meet people, and so on. And no matter what you may think, there are simple and effective ways of meeting the right person.

Let me draw upon the story of Adam and Eve to make a final point. When they were created for each other, after partaking of the fruit of the tree, Adam was displeased with Eve. Adam had the option of not accepting Eve as his twin soul, but Eve told Adam that, if he did not accept her, he would be alone. The secret here is to understand the word alone. Without your soulmate’s love, you will feel alone regardless of how handsome, beautiful, rich or famous you or your lover is. Understanding this is very important, because it will put you in the right frame of mind to go about your love life in the right way. Good luck to you!

Ernest Quansah is a Soulmate Relationship Expert who helps men and women find their true love and create the relationship of their dreams. He is the author of How to Identify Your Soulmate, a love relationship advice manual designed to help people find happiness and fulfillment in their relationships. For more information about his services, please visit http://www.soulmateinfoserve.com

Copyright © 2005. All rights reserved.

BBW online dating services are becoming an above average niche in the internet dating scene. And the reason is men in general are getting tired of stick thin women. They want something they can cuddle on those cozy nights in.

The Women you will meet at these services aren’t all huge, they just have curves. They’re real women, how they’re suppose to be, and that’s the reason more single men are turning to BBW dating web sites. Also at these services you will find BHM ( Big Handsome Men ) and FA’s ( Fat Admirers ). This is just an online dating niche that makes it a lot easier for plus sized singles to find their soul mates. You won’t only find love connections at these services you’ll also find lots of friends.

If you’re serious about meeting a Big Beautiful Woman, or you are a BBW who’s looking for a BHM then you will need a popular reliable BBW online dating service. You just need to read a few reviews online, and from them you should be able to decide what service you think is the right service for you.

Once you have chosen your service you just need to then create your profile. Put as much detail into this as possible, and make sure it’s all positive. The next thing is a nice clear photo on your dating profile. Doing this will get you a lot more clicks, and that’s just what you want. The more clicks you get saves you searching all the time for potential partners. Although women get a far higher number of clicks on their profiles men do too. All you have to do is make your profile stand out from the rest of them.

Your next move will be to contact another single. When you first join a BBW online dating service you will be using your free account. With this you can usually send flirts that are pre-written messages that you can choose from a list. Although these are good for letting someone know you like them you can’t beat a personal e-mail. You will be able to send e-mails to other singles when you have upgraded your membership. With this you can mention the things that liked in the recipients profile. This will give you a much better chance of getting a reply.

With a bit of dedication after all this you should have found yourself a BBW, BHM or FA at your favorite BBW online dating service. Then you can go on your first date with someone you met online.

Being a Christian single, and wanting a relationship with another Christian can make your life a bit of a search. To make your life easier you could consider a Christian online dating service. These are frequented by thousands of Christian singles every day.

What could be more easier than getting yourself a cup of your favorite beverage, and logging in to a Christian dating service looking at the profiles of eligible Christian singles. Depending on where you live finding other Christian singles offline may be a difficult task. If you have moved to a new area, and don’t know anyone an online dating service is the perfect place to start interacting with other Christian singles.

The other advantage you have over meeting them offline is they are all there looking for friendship or romance. It cuts out all the guesswork of finding out if someone is actually single. This leaves all your effort concentrated on making new friends or finding love interests. The popular Christian dating services can have up to half a million singles all with profiles.

They have chat rooms where you can easily make new friends. Bible study partners are often looked for here, and there’s plenty to learn from the more experienced Christians. Many younger Christians look at these chat rooms as a place of learning, and discovering more about their faith. Again this is something that may be difficult for a Christian to do offline because of actually getting together with someone.

There are many reviews online for Christian dating services. Once you have read these you should be in a position to choose where you would like to create your profile. Once this is done you will be allowed to start your free trial, and get to know the service you have chosen. This will also give you a chance to give that service a good test to see if you get on with it, and there are plenty of singles living in your area.

If you do find a few Christian singles you’re interested in your next step will be contacting them. As a free member you can usually send someone a pre-written message chosen from a list, normally called a flirt or smile. To have more chance of getting to know someone it’s best to send a nice personal e-mail. You can start sending e-mails once you have upgraded your membership which can cost less than a night out for one months membership. The advantage of sending an e-mail is you can mention parts of the recipients profile in the message. This will show them that you are paying attention.

Once you have got to know someone online you want the next step to be your first offline date. If you meet someone that you fall in love with you will remember that you would never had of met them if you hadn’t joined a Christian online dating service.

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Football season is here again, so I get to use a sports analogy. The guys will love it, the gals may have to seek male interpretation!

Maggie and Larry feel they are in love with each other. They’ve been dating for about six months. Maggie is shy and has been hurt in prior relationships, making it difficult for her to open up and express her feelings. Larry is insecure and needs her to be able to verbalize her emotions. He says that if she can’t open her heart to him he cannot continue with the relationship. She says that if she doesn’t have the time and comfort and security of knowing that he is committed to her, she can’t open up to him.

So we have the classic Catch 22. She can’t open up without a commitment, and he can’t make a commitment unless she opens up. Can they find middle ground? It turns out that this is where most relationships grow, “in the crease.” It is that narrow seam between his barriers and hers where, just maybe, they can move forward a little.

The football analogy is a good one. Suppose you are a running back and you want to score a touchdown. But between you and the goal line are your own teammates and also players from the opposing team. You can’t run through your own players, and you can’t run through your opponents either. So you try to find a “hole” between all the players to run through, and if the hole stretches out for five or ten yards you have found “the crease,” i.e. that narrow seam where there are no players from either team to bump into.

More than likely you will be tackled before making a touchdown, but you will have progressed forward and you can get up and try again.

Your own players that block your path are like your own internal barriers, fears, limiting beliefs, preconceived notions, etc. The opposing players are like your partner’s internal barriers, fears, limiting beliefs, preconceived notions, etc. The “crease” is that narrow seam between all these barriers where you can make some degree of progress. Some degree of progress probably does not mean a touchdown, and does not mean you won’t feel hurt, but it does mean you can continue to build your relationship in a series of such “creases.”

Maybe Larry can give Maggie six months. This is not forever, but it’s more than nothing. Maybe Maggie can express herself in e-mails. This is not the same as in person, but it’s a start. There are no doubt many other possible “interim solutions.”

A lot depends on the degree of romantic chemistry. If it’s strong, they will (hopefully) keep trying. If not, they’ll probably give up. Emotional maturity is important here also. The more emotionally mature a person is, the wider their degree of understanding, acceptance, and flexibility, making it easier to find common ground. If there is high chemistry and no common ground it is a sure sign of immaturity.

Finding the crease is not easy. Both you and your partner will have to push yourselves and stretch your limits. A football player has to put all his energy into finding the crease, running through it as far as he can, accepting the pain from the short gain, and getting up to try again. Relationships are very similar.

I am happy to say that Maggie and Larry have found the crease that allows their relationship to move forward. No doubt there will be other situations that present themselves in the future, but again the secret to making progress is to “find the crease.”

Copyright 2005, Randy Hurlburt

Randy Hurlburt is an internationally acclaimed relationship coach, speaker, and author of “Love Is Not A Game (But You Should Know The Odds).” His book was a finalist for “Best Psychology/Self-Help Book” in the 2005 Benjamin Franklin Awards. “Love Is Not A Game” is about why good love (and good sex) are so hard to find, and includes love tests to measure romantic chemistry and emotional maturity.

Website: http://loveisnotagame.com

Online dating success relies on many factors, including your profile, your opening headline, and just how well you communicate once you jump in and start emailing or chatting with other members. But any online dating service will tell you, and most surveys agree that posting a photo is one of the real keys to online dating success. Although you don’t want all of your hopes to hinge on your looks, it’s true that most people who are browsing through an Internet dating site will first view the profiles that include photos. There are several reasons for this. First, it’s simply nice to have a face to put with the profile and description. Second, some people, rightly or wrongly, are afraid that if you don’t post your picture you might have something to hide, and third, some people simply have a particular look that appeals to them.

You don’t have to post a picture of yourself if you don’t want to, but you may be missing out on meeting some great people if you don’t, since profiles with pictures get about 70% more responses than those that don’t have photos. Of course, if you are uncomfortable having your photo on the Internet, nothing says you have to put it up for everyone to see. An alternative might be to mention in your profile that you would be glad to send a photo to anyone who is interested in corresponding. This way, you know that you’ve already gotten their attention with your profile, and you can limit who sees your picture. Try it this way if you are leery, but if you are disappointed with your early results, you might reconsider posting a photo of yourself. After all, the other members are there for the same reason you are - to meet someone as nice as you, and they’ve probably posted their photos already.

What Makes A Good Photo?

There are some things to keep in mind when posting a photo to an online dating site. First and most important is that it should be recent and accurate. Don’t use a picture from eight years ago, and don’t have a glamour shot taken so that you look like a soap opera star if that isn’t what you look like in real life. They’re going to meet you eventually if things go well, and you don’t want them to feel like they’ve been deceived. A head and shoulders shot is best - and please either have a photographer or friend take it. Don’t try it yourself at arm’s length on your digital camera at 2:00 am - these always look poorly lit and “last minute.” Some definite don’ts are pictures of you with your ex, pictures in lingerie (unless you want sexual propositions instead of dates), and photos of you with your mother or your car. Sorry, guys - women aren’t nearly as impressed with your car as you are. If the online dating site you’re joining allows you to post more than one photo, you can post additional ones that

Include friends, family or pets if these are important to you. Photos of you involved in a favorite activity (sailing, hiking, etc.) are also a good way to show some of your personality while letting others see what you look like. Just remember - the main picture should always be of just you, close-up and neatly dressed and groomed. And remember, that main photo is the image they will carry in their minds while corresponding with you - so if you’re a casual person, wear a sweater or tee-shirt. If you’re a more formal person, dress up a bit, so the photo reflects not only your appearance, but your personality. And remember, a picture really can paint a thousand words.