Do you have a type? You know what I mean. Do the people you date have similarities, in the way they look, lifestyle, or personality characteristics? For example, your type may be a tall man with blue eyes. You may be attracted to older, distinguished or accomplished men. Perhaps you like excitement and drama or have a penchant for saving lovers with lots of problems. Some are drawn to the more aloof person who is hard to communicate with. These are all “types.”

So, what’s wrong with having a type? Well nothing at all if it’s working for you. If you are happy in your current relationship, feel the balance of power is acceptable, and the situation enjoyable - good for you! Unfortunately, having a type frequently presents the same relationship issues over and over again - a situation that is not always fun.

Many of my clients complain they just don’t find men who are attractive to them. This is a tip off that the person is likely hindering their dating search by seeking a specific type of man. Another signal is when someone says, “I just don’t meet anyone interesting.” It’s a big world out there - there must be candidates who can spark your interest. If these comments sound familiar, you may be limiting yourself by typecasting as well.

In case you’ve been wondering why your relationships often end up with the same troubles or you haven’t met anyone lately who does it for you, you might want to examine each of your past partners to see what they have in common. What should you look for to discover a pattern? Consider the following aspects of your lovers:

•Personality
• Lifestyle choices
• Family patterns and upbringing
• Outlook on life and attitude
• Physical characteristics
• Style of pursuing or dating you
• Communication patterns
• Partying and addictions
• Capability for intimacy
• Flashiness vs. substance
• Expectations and demands
• Amount of time he/she spends with you, etc.

Spend some time getting to know who you are in a relationship and become familiar with your own patterns and expectations. This can offer important clues for the next time you get involved or for your current circumstances.

Okay, you’ve looked at your patterns. Now, what do you do with that information? Keep in mind that knowledge helps you make better, more educated decisions. This is where the head meets the heart in terms of dating effectiveness. After all, the purpose of dating is usually “data gathering” to find a good match for a long-term relationship or marriage. Awareness is the first step towards creating change.

Take a moment to ask yourself, “Does this type of person meet my needs and make me happy?’

If you find yourself thinking “no” to these questions, you now have an opportunity to break from your traditional habits. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, yet expecting a different result. Since that’s not too productive, I recommend trying something new.

The next time you are out there looking for love, be open to new types of people who might be attractive and get along with you better. Perhaps you’ll consider a more soft spoken, and shy man who has a good heart versus the flashy, good-looking guy who’s a smooth talker. Or maybe you’ll pick a more open and available man who doesn’t play games and offers a solid heart connection.

Push yourself beyond your usual attractions to explore a broader range of potential mates. Cast a wider net to let more lovable options flow into your world who may be better at satisfying your relationship needs. Leave your type in the dust and find a good match who will expand your world and create a more joyful, lasting partnership. With 101 million single American adults, there is no doubt in my mind that the right person for you is out there.

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Nowadays, more and more people are finding online dating a remarkable way of gaining new friends, companions, or love mates. As it grows at breakneck speed, the online dating industry has devised a new way of services for their members and even non-members. Many online dating sites are offering the so-called online dating tests.

Most of these online dating tests are about personality and compatibility. They range from the simple to most complex questions but all are designed to give people the results that might help them on their online dates.

However, even if it gained tremendous popularity, many experts contend that online dating tests are not that reliable. In fact, many psychologists contend that the reliability and efficiency of online dating tests is less than 50%. This means that, when the results of an online dating test concerning compatibility state that the person who tried the test and the person being paired say they are compatible, chances are, only half of it is true.

Why Were They Created?

Because of the unprecedented growth of online dating and the increasing demand for matchmaking, most of the online dating industry has come up with the concept of online dating tests in order to help with a better match. Hence, different online dating tests have emerged like personality tests and compatibility tests.

Psychologists have asserted that when a person tried to access online dating tests and answered some questions, chances are, his or her answers will be affected by many outside factors such as feelings, attitude, mood, and context. This means that there are possibilities wherein a person may have two different answers on one given question if it will be asked on two different situations.

For example, if an individual is feeling low or is “heartbroken” by the time he or she tried to answer an online dating test and answered them again on a different mood, chances are, the results may vary.

Some psychologists explain that the reason for these discrepancies is that the Internet-based online dating test are only through self-evaluation and are not guided by reliable psychological assessment, which usually are done in clinical conditions.

Therefore, for people who are fond of answering online dating tests, there’s no problem on that. The problem arises if it will be the basis of something serious like marriage.

Boiled down, these tests can be amusing but it should never be used by people in making decisions about love and relationship.

About The Author:

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant,
and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and
Software site at http://www.lmamedia.com for more information about
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I love this girl very much. Right now she is my wife. I still love her as much. I want to share my love with her, show my
love to her. I sometimes do things just to show her that I love her. These are some things that I do.

1. Watch a DVD together

This is the what I love doing. On our weekends, I’ll rent a nice DVD, knowing that she will love watching. I’ll prepare
some chips and red wine. Cuddling up the sofa, watching a nice movie, with chips and sipping red wine. What a romantic
night to spend with your love one.

2. Saying “I love you”

Married for three years, still today, I say “I love you” to my wife. This three words are the most powerful words on to show
your love. Say it not just for the sake of saying, but say it with all the feelings of love. Look into her eyes, say it
to her soul. I’ll always get a hug for that.

3. Strolling after dinner

I’ll bring her to the park after dinner. Strolling while holding her hand. We’ll always share our dreams and life while
strolling. Catching up with each other’s life due to the busy week we both had.

4. Write a book for her

I wrote a book about us and gave it to her on one of her birthday. The book says about how we met each other till we decided
to be an item. At times we’ll still take out the book to read to rekindle that love that we have for each other

5. Email poems to her

I usually use email for my work. Once a while I’ll send love poems to her via email. This surprised her, because she knows
my habit of using emails for work only. This simple act just make her beautify her day.

6. Handmade cards

I love to make cards. I make cards to my wife in any occasions. I want her to have the only special kind where no others
have. Only those that I made are special and unique. It doesn’t need to be beautifully done up. All my cards are simple
yet unique. Some cards don’t even have any drawings or designs, just a coconut tree sketch by me. Although it’s simple
but it shows a lot about the love I have for her.

By Joe & Nanang of http://www.honeymoon-forever.com. Our mission is to have love all around the world. We want people to feel and share love their love ones.

I’d had a full week and was dead tired. All I looked forwarded to was 5 pm, a few beers and the weekend. Teaching young Emirati/Arab ladies about human resources and business communication in English was always going to be a challenge given their varying levels of English comprehension. Trying to find a meeting of minds with anyone can be a challenge, let alone those who speak English as a second language. But occasionally I knew I was getting my message across and that these ladies would benefit from the knowledge and skills they were learning.

Most of our classes had a touch of humour and fun, some good teamwork with those with a better command of English helping their colleagues pick up the nub of my messages, and a good rapport between us, me as the expatriate Australian who had come to help (and brought with him a strange accent); them as the willing learners. We took time to do some serious learning, but have a bit of fun in the process. The last day of the week is a low key day. We revise what we have covered in the previous week and set the scene for the coming week. Everyone was tired, but somehow we hung in there and got through the final hour.

It’s very satisfying knowing that you are helping the next generation of people who will make the United Arab Emirates even greater than it is. While I teach them human resources, they covertly teach me about the fortitude it takes to come back day after day and struggle to learn unfamiliar topics in a language that they only partially understand. Each has developed coping mechanisms. It takes a special type of courage and dedication that I have come to admire very much. I often wonder whether I could do it.

Anyway, we had been discussing SMS messaging and how it might, or might not be used in business; when it was appropriate and when it wasn’t. They are all adept at anything to do with mobile phones and modern technology generally, but the intricacies of appropriate business communication we had to cover.

At the end of the lesson they bade me “have a nice weekend sir”, and I returned to my desk to complete the last bit of paperwork, prepare for next week and enter attendances before leaving. Although I had managed to get through the last lesson, I stil felt stuffed.

For some reason or other I went straight to my mobile phone, which I leave in my desk set to ’silent’ while in the classroom. Usually I forget to check it until hours later in the evening. But today, I decided to check my messages. And there it was. No. It wasn’t notification of a huge lottery win. It was much better. My daughter in Australia had sent me an SMS message that simply said, “I love you dad”. Nothing else, just “I love you dad”.

I was puzzled. Nobody ever tells me they love me. As I fought back tears (unsucessfully), I reflected on how very lucky I am to have a lovely daughter who, for some reason or other, had decided on the spur of the moment to tell me what she feels. It mattered not to me why she said it, only that she said it. I thought, “I love you too”, switched the mobile back to “loud” and finished up the remaining work before driving home.

My tiredness remarkably, had vanished. I felt elated, like a million dollars … I was The King of the World and everything was wonderful. That’s the Power of Love. Mix it with the immediacy of an SMS message and you have a powerful combination.

All of us want to love and be loved. It’s part of the human condition. With the power of SMS messages and the written word, you can change lives. When was the last time you told someone you love them?

Copyright 2006 Robin Henry | First Published March 2006

Robin Henry is an educator, human resources specialist and Internet entrepreneur. He helps home-based businesses and individuals improve performance by applying smart technology and processes and developing personally. He runs his business Desert Wave Enterprises from his home base at Alice Springs in Central Australia, although at present he is on temporary assignment in the United Arab Emirates.

Online dating is fun. You could meet new friends and expand your social circle. Better yet, you might have the match you have been looking for.

If you haven’t tried online dating, there are some things you could keep in mind.

1. Start slow

Try searching on reputable online dating sites. You should look out for someone who is too good to be true on the first time. Your should trust your instincts.

2. Protect yourself

You should not reveal your true identity until you feel that you can reveal it to the other person and feel comfortable about doing so. Do not instantly give your full name, contact numbers, home address, and other details where others can check your profile.

3. Exercise common sense and caution

Practice caution in easily trusting other people. Use common sense in making decisions. Take your time in determining the person’s integrity and motives. Pay attention every time you communicate.

4. Ask for a photo

Ask for a photo of a prospective match, not just because you want to see if he or she is good-looking. If possible, ask for several photos in different settings: Formal, casual, outdoors, and indoors. In that way you would have an idea of what he or she looks like.

5. Do not just chat via online

An electronic chat would not suffice. Do phone conversations with him or her, as these would show social and communication skills. Avoid calling at home. Try calling from a cell phone or a telephone booth. Only when you are completely comfortable should you give your home number.

6. Meet only when you are completely ready

Meet only when you feel secure and ready to meet your online date. Do not feel obliged or persuaded to meet the other person even if he or she insists, if you are not yet ready.

7. Check for danger

If you decided to finally meet him or her, pay close attention to any violent displays, intense frustration, or moves to control or pressure you.

8. Meet only in a secured place

When meeting your date, especially for the first time, meet him or her in a safe place. Tell a friend or someone who your date is and your plans for tonight. Set a time during your date where your friend can call you and ask if everything is okay.

It is better to be safe than sorry. Online dating has some perks, but it also has its pitfalls.

About The Author:

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant,
and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and
Software site at http://www.lmamedia.com for more information about
Dating Do’s and Dont’s.

You may use this article freely on your website as long as this resource
box is included, a link point back to my site, and this article remains
unchanged! Copyright 2005 Lawrence Andrews