In this ever troubled world, dating is one of those things that is just not as safe as it was back in the good old days. If you’re going to have any chance of getting out of your dating experience alive, you may want to read what follows.

The dangers of dating, now with the Internet revolution, have taken on a new meaning. There are more pitfalls to going to the local soda shop than ever before. Being careful is not enough. You need to be educated as well. But where do you get this education? It’s not like there’s a course you can take to teach you about dating dangers. Hopefully, these tips will give you some guidance.

The biggest problem with dating today is actually finding somebody you can trust to go out with. There are a lot of unstable people walking around in this world. With all the influences of drugs and alcohol, you have really get to know somebody well before you even decide if you want to ask them out on a date, unless of course you like to live dangerously.

Another problem today is AIDS. It was bad enough when the only thing you had to worry about was VD. But now with this deadly disease going around, having casual sex with your date could be a death sentence, literally. And the worst part is, your potential date may not even know he or she has HIV as it can take up to seven years for it to show after initial sexual contact. If you’re worried about this, ask your date straight out what his or her sexual experiences have been. If they’re offended, too bad. Better safe than sorry.

Another problem with even finding dates is the ease of doing so on the Internet, a place where many predators hang out. You have to be extremely careful about meeting someone through an online dating service and should in no way even consider meeting somebody you meet in a chat room as this is where all the crazies hang out.

Once you’ve actually found a date, with the world becoming a much more dangerous place, just finding a spot to take your date can be a chore, especially if you live in a city where there is a lot of crime. Just turn on the news and you’ll hear about people innocently walking down the street getting shot for no apparent reason. So when deciding where to take your date, try to find a place that you know for certain is safe.

Another problem with dating is that many girls who are underage won’t confide this to a guy, especially if she likes him. While this may in actuality be consensual, technically, if the guy is over age, this is statutory rape. So if you are a guy and you think your girl is younger than she looks, make sure. Ask her straight out. Ask her what grade she’s in. Do whatever you can to convince yourself that she is over age.

Unfortunately, dating is not an easy thing to do. Finding somebody who is compatible is hard enough. With all these added dangers and pitfalls, it becomes a virtual nightmare.

Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to Dating

Whether you’re looking for a long-term partner or searching for a date for Friday night, online dating is the newest trend for singles looking for love. Singles who are serious about looking for a committed relationship usually are very honest about what kind of man or woman they’re looking for. Some write that they are looking for the perfect father or mother for their children, not to mention a companion for themselves. And the results are phenomenal! Many couples who meet online actually end up marrying, therefore blending their families - much like the Brady Bunch.

Many online dating users get to know each other so well online, that when they do meet for the first time, it’s like they’ve always known each other. Many online dating users feel that chatting online is safer, especially if they have children because couples get to know each other really well before meeting. Other online dating users who use the service to find a quick date for the weekend also find online dating a savior. Users simply type what attributes and characteristics they’re looking for, and a pile of profiles pop up. Often times, users mention that they are simply looking for a weekend date. And that’s fine too.

Tsan Lin is the administrator for http://www.cupidpost.com Online Dating Service for Singles. Cupid Post maintains a database of real singles looking for relationship. Every profile is screened for authenticity.

Every human being has her/his own particular, one-of-a-kind role to play. But there is one role that precedes all others. It is the role that every human is designed to play because it is so crucial in the Creator’s design. Aside from the particular details of your individual assignment on Planet Earth (the job you are designed to do based on your own particular interests and abilities), your primary purpose as a human being is to be a receiver, carrier, and transmitter of Life Force Energy, also known as “Love.”

Radiating Love is the most important task you can fulfill as a human being. The more freely and capably you receive, circulate, and transmit the Love that is being constantly emanated by Source, the more vital you are in the scheme of things. And because this is what you are designed to do, doing it naturally positions you for the optimal flow of Life Force. Indeed, as a perk, doing your job as a transmitter of Love makes you healthy and happy and raises you up within reach of the Garden Gate! The Divine Design is chock full of such magnificent reciprocations. There are unending benefits that are automatically ours for doing and being that which we were designed to do and be. Talk about the rewards of success!

When you are primarily radiating Love, you are succeeding where it counts the most, despite anything else you may accomplish on this Earth. It is that simple. When we increase the sum total of Love on Earth, we are successes in doing our primary job as humans. As long as you are being a transmitter of Love, anything else you achieve as a human being is gravy.

There are additional benefits for performing the task of being a transmitter of Love. The only way you can be optimally effective at it is to fully circulate Life Force/Love throughout your body-mind, and that just happens to be the requirement for optimal health and true happiness. Doing your job as a transmitter of Love brings you joy and radiant health! If knowledge of your individual role is what you crave, you’ll be happy to know that doing your job as a transmitter of Love means that you are automatically hooked up to the Great Intelligence that holds the knowledge of what your other individual, divinely ordained roles and purposes are and how to go about fulfilling them! Not only that, you are in position to receive all the energy you need to carry them out. Neat design, eh?

©2006 Julia Rogers Hamrick

Excerpted from Recreating Eden: The Exquisitely Simple, Divinely Ordained Plan for Transforming Your Life and Your Planet

Julia Rogers Hamrick has been a spiritual-growth facilitator for over two decades, and is the author of Recreating Eden: The Exquisitely Simple, Divinely Ordained Plan for Transforming Your Life and Your Planet. Julia writes about and leads seminars on proactive joy, and the relationship between frequency and experience. For more information on Julia and recreating Eden, and to get on her list to be eligible for her f’ree monthly teleseminars, visit http://www.recreating-eden.com

Some people, no matter how old they get, never seem to get the hang of dating. Countless bad dates and cheesy pick-up lines could make you feel like giving up and staying single forever. You could be dating just to have fun, or you could be looking for a serious companion. You must keep a positive attitude and learn that with age comes experience. And experience is the best teacher!

Don’t rush dating. There is nothing wrong with getting to know someone before you date someone. Dating over 50 does not mean you’re running out of time. Rather the opposite. You are experienced and have learned that to get along with someone, you must find that perfect match. Knowing someone prior to an actual romantic date takes the stress out of putting on your best face when getting to know someone. Most people try so hard to impress someone that they forget to relax and be themselves. When dating, at any age, you want to get to know someone well, before taking that important “next step”.

The dating frame of mind changes with age. The emphasis of marriage and children is practically gone by this point in a person’s life. Most people dating over 50 are just looking for a person to have a great time with. Some are divorced or widowed. Others are still in search of the right person to spend their life with. You can be assured that if someone is dating over 50 then they have been there, done that, and know exactly what they want and don’t want in a mate.

As with most types of dating, there are sites devoted to dating over 50. “Prime Singles” is a dating site specializing in the over 50 crowd. You can browse in your area or across the world to find your perfect match, and its all for free. Whether you are seeking someone who is over 50, or are over 50, its almost impossible not to find a match. Dating over 50 can be just as fun as dating when you’re 20. You’re never too old to date and it’s never too late to fall in love.

Keith Londrie II is a well known author. For more information on Dating, please visit Dating Information Site for more information on dating online and offline. Also see the other site at http://about-dating-info.info/

Love is such a broad topic. I think it is the most energetic
force in the universe. The opposite of love is fear. This
love is a greater love than we can fully grasp. Pure
love is one without judgment, without conditions, and
without motive. Love encompasses respect and compass-
sion but it is the greater element. To love someone is to
truly accept them as they are. This applies to self-love as
well. Truly accept yourself as you are. Offer love and
acceptance and forgiveness to every part of yourself.
It is necessary to do this first to a great extent before you
give out love to others.

Love is also about change. Love will always offer a better
way of doing something or a way of being in exchange
for one that is not working. Love encourages us to the greatest
arena of our imagination and life. It encourages everyone
equally. It offers acceptance equally. As you open to “Love”
it begins to fill your whole being. Then it begins to fill your
whole sphere of influence; your friends, your family, your
students, your associates, the people that you encounter.
One person or creature offering out pure love begins an
overflow of energy that can affect the whole world, and the
whole universe. It doesn’t sound possible but love is such a
big force that wave after wave of love can affect great
change starting with you.

Love transforms fear, which contain all the elements that
vibrate at low frequencies; fear, terror, anger, hatred,
rage, envy, jealousy, grief, sadness, hostility, disrespect,
disgust, and alienation. Love heals. It takes away the
hurt and transforms any residual that remains. Love purifies
everything that it touches. But once it comes in it never
leaves you nor forsakes you. It continues to purify to the
highest vibration possible. It affects change because it
purifies so deeply, and so completely. It is capable of touching every area of your life and others. Love does not force. Love just keeps loving.
With love great joy is allowed to come in.

If you don’t feel that you have love in your life, start
offering love first to yourself. Offer yourself to love.
Let it have every thought, every hurt, every dark, bad
moment. It will receive everything that you give it without
condemnation and offer great compassion.

Next allow the people that come to offer kindness, and
compassion to touch you. Let them hug you. Hear their
words. Let words of love come into your thoughts without
rejecting them. Change any thinking that has been telling
you that you are unworthy of love or kindness. Begin to
receive the small shows of affection. The hugs, the
smiles, the gentle touches. Children offer unconditional
love. They are usually happy to offer you hugs and
affection. Animals are a good source of affection and love.

Volunteering is a very good way to extend love out.
Practice kindness. Imagine how past kindly loving
guides would love them. How would Jesus love this
person? What would he think about them? What would
he say to them? How would he feel about this person or
about me? How would Gandhi act in this situation? How
would Mother Teresa behave towards them?

If you have not read about the lives of these great kindly
beings, read everything that you can. The New Testament
in the bible Specifically John is a great place to start.
Gandhi The Man is very good book. As is
The Celestine Prophecy series, Conversations With God series.

If you are open to it strangers may surprise you with an
act of kindness and love. Very often spontaneous moments
offer great warmth and love. Do not reject this. Many
times we are afraid of the other and do not offer affection to
someone that is hurting. One way to receive more love
is to reach out to someone who is hurting. A stranger or an
acquaintance could greatly use kindness and love from you.
In that moment there is a great exchange of love. You have
acted as an instrument of love.

Praying about love and asking how to be a more loving
person
can give you great comfort and insight. Examples will be
shown to you. Moments will be open to you in which you
can choose to give love and to receive it. The more times
that you embrace those moments in a loving manner, you
will begin to open to the subtlety of love. Acts of loving come
in the small quiet places to the great big dramatic moments.
Each time if you pray and meditate in your heart and ask how
would “love” react here you will receive insight as to how you
could act to express love.

It is not always easy especially when you are dealing with
a person who is cranky, grouchy, unjust or nasty. You have to
look beyond the criticism, beyond their unpleasantness and see
that more often than not they are afraid. Perhaps that person
has gotten to this moment of crankiness, and being mean or
controlling because they learned that behavior. They don’t
know how to be nice. Or they have been hurt so many times
that they have forgotten how to drop their defenses. They are
stuck. You can help them by accepting them as they are.
Offering love and kindness in spite of how they behave.

Love is a slow, patient energy. It does not win by attacking.
It does not force. It remains consistent whether it is night or day, a
good mood or a bad mood, acceptable behavior or
unacceptable behavior.

Yoga Kat–aka Katheryn Hoban is a yoga teacher with twelve years experience. She teaches children’s yoga ages 3-6, and 7-12 and Adults privately in NJ. She is the author the book DAUGHTER BELOVED which will come out next year. She has created a children’s affirmation CD (ages 3-6) and an affirmation CD for adults. Yoga Kat is available for speaking or writing and can be reached at katscoolcorner@yahoo.com or 201 970-9340.