In a recent article entitled “What Is Your Emotional Maturity Quotient” or EMQ” I noted that one of the dimensions of EMQ related to the ability to express and feel love towards self, others and the environment.

In a global environment where competition and the need to survive are so valued where is there room for the expression of Love?

Well one’s ability to express love and NOT the need to survive is the key to personal growth happiness, fulfillment, harmonious relationships, and a healthy body and most importantly of all a self sustaining planet.

That is obvious isn’t it?

If not then let’s look at where competition and the need to survive is taking you, your life and the planet.

Well in a nutshell, the need to survive places one “behind the 8 ball” so to speak. That is because as soon as you find yourself there you automatically, if you are aware of it, start to feel vulnerable, afraid, anxious, stressed, depleted or drained of energy, agitated, frustrated, trapped, alone, unhappy and so on.

All of this causes you to make decisions that are competitive in nature the purpose of which is supposedly to enhance your level of inner stability and inner peace. Yet as long as you are engaging the need to survive you will never feel any of these will you?

What’s more as you struggle to survive on a planet that appears to have limited resources you “must” out do your neighbors, correct?

This means separating yourself from any feelings of love or compassion you, as a human being, may have for them. Again this leaves you feeling vulnerable, alone and stressed. Just where you started.

What is all this competition doing to the planet? Well look around you and I think you’ll see that the answer is obvious.

So where does this leave you, others and the planet? Well on a course to destruction.

So are you feeling peaceful now? Hardly!

So is your strategy something that you would term “mature”?

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New to online dating? These internet dating tips can help you jump-start your exploration of cyberspace dating and relating. I’ve used lots of online dating websites and made some mistakes along the way. But I learned from those mistakes and I’ve come up with a list of internet dating tips that have helped me immensely (and my friends swear by them!).

Do Your Homework

A site is only as good as what you’re getting out of it. Yes, size matters to some degree, but it isn’t the only thing to consider. An internet dating site with millions of members may sound great, but if only three members live anywhere within 1,000 miles of you, it might not be a good fit. A small site that focuses on your area of the country or your particular interests may be a better fit. Check out several sites offering trial memberships and do searches using at least three criteria (age group, geographic location and a special interest would be a good start). From there, choose the one that seems like the one with the most potential for you.

Never Give Away Personal Information

Yes, it’s been said before, but this is one of those internet dating tips that bears repeating: NEVER put personal information in your profile. Most members of Internet single sites are as normal as you are, but don’t take the chance. You’re looking for a date or friendship, not a stalker. Be sure you are comfortable before revealing anything personal to anyone.

Don’t Forget Your Photo

Post a good, recent photo - preferably more than one. The statistics don’t lie; every internet dating advice column you read will agree that profiles with pictures get many times the response of ones that don’t. It doesn’t matter if you’re a wealthy, witty brain surgeon if you don’t include a picture. Most people will assume you have something to hide (Are you married and trying to cheat? Do you have a horrible disfigurement?). If you post more than one, choose a couple of different settings and poses (dressed up for the evening and casual in jeans, for instance). The more photos you have and the clearer they are, the more people who will visit your profile.

About Your Profile

Fill out the entire profile, even if it has a hundred seemingly mundane questions. Knowing that you like Chinese food, own two dogs and like to travel are great conversation starters for someone who is interested in you. It also gives a “snapshot” of your personality. If you simply skip a lot of questions, it gives the impression you joined without really being all that interested. If you can’t be bothered with completing the profile, how likely are you to invest time in really getting to know someone?

Use Humor to Your Advantage

Instead of a dry history of your life, try talking about yourself with a few humorous comments (”I’m the proud pet of a Labrador Retriever who has successfully trained me to give him biscuits on demand,” sounds so much more intriguing than, “I have a dog.”).

Turn-Offs to Avoid

Headlines that are complete turn-offs include (and I’m amazed how often I actually see this), “No games, please!” and “I’ll make your dreams come true.” One sounds like the cry of someone who’s wounded, suspicious and recently dumped. The other sounds arrogant and makes a ridiculous promise. How can you make his/her dreams come true? You don’t even know them!

Start Things on a Casual Note

This is probably one the most important Internet dating tips. Talk about common interests, current events and interesting stories you may have heard recently. Most people are a bit cautious at first, so give anyone you contact the chance to get to know you a little bit before heading into deep waters. If you’re emailing each other, don’t write a book every time - sometimes just a quick note can bring a smile and take the pressure off to respond at length. Everyone likes a bit of breathing room at first, especially online.

Whether you’re looking for friendship, casual dating or a serious romance, these Internet dating tips will ensure you a successful launch in the online dating world.

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Having a hard time being single? Online dating web sites could well be the answer to your dilemma. With millions of singles worldwide using online dating services it must be difficult not to connect with someone.

Whether your looking for someone for love, a good time, or even a playmate there’s something for every single. No race, religion, or body shape is ignored either. There are online dating web sites for pet lovers as well. You have every opportunity to meet someone with whom you think has the perfect lifestyle for yourself.

All online dating web sites have free trial periods so you can test as many as you like. This gives everyone the chance to find the most comfortable online dating service before they hand over their hard earned money.

If you’re single, and own a pc with an internet connection you’re already half way there. All you have to do is find an online dating service, and fill out a few details about yourself. Make your dating profile sound as attractive as possible, and before you know it you will be getting some attention from an online admirer.

All online dating web sites will give you the option of uploading a photo of yourself. This now though isn’t just an option, it’s a must. Uploading a photo on your profile will get you up to ten times more responses, and give you more interaction while using your free trial. Singles who don’t upload a photo generally don’t get any attention.

With so many choices of online dating web sites available it also increases your chances of success by choosing the right one for your lifestyle or religion. If for example you are a devout Christian, by joining a Christian online dating web site you can feel free knowing that your passion for Christianity will not get in the way of your relationship.

Once you have found the right online dating service for yourself the cost is nothing compared to going out to a club to meet someone. Most monthly usage rates are very close to one night out. If you decide to pay for three, six, or twelve months the monthly rate comes down. Basically the more you pay for the more discount you will get.

So if you’re feeling lonely, and are indoors with a pc you have nothing to lose looking for some online romance.

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All our lives, our minds are filled with the mystery of love. We go on searching—some feel that they have failed miserably and others still continue on the quest, thinking that such failures are but obstacles to be tackled. But the eternal question is, “How do we know if it is the love worth finding?”

What we know about this unending search is that you are looking for something permanent—something that would last. Forever? Is there even such a thing? In fact, there is. It is rare, but it does exist.

A professor of mine once told me, “Love is 100%–50% for you and 50% for your partner.” And it has to happen at the right time, right place and instance for it to work. If it does not, then the couple should separate and try to fill in those percents lacking for their 50. And when those 50%’s are complete, they will meet again and this time, it will work. The only problem is lovers have so little faith. They try and try to make things work out when it is not yet the time. This is what causes everything to be chaotic. They are so scared of losing each other that they force things to work when all they really have to do is trust that someday, they will meet again.”

Your search for true love should not be limited to what society perceives as true love. We are but unique species, we have different needs and wants. Things work for each of us differently. You may fight everyday but by the end of each day, you lie down together, feeling contented.

In the end, the love worth finding is what works for you—what truly makes you glow from inside out. It does not matter where you found it. What matters is, it is the love worth going through every single earthly version of heaven and hell for… the type that makes you want to wake up each morning just so you can thank God for letting you find one another in this crazy, twisted world.

Knowing what to find is one thing, actually knowing where to find it is another. The truth is, you will never know. That is why we have to take chances. We cannot expect to find true love just by sitting in one corner waiting for it to come along. We have to seek it. And with the wide array of things available for us online, who knows, maybe love is just also one click away.

Robert Johannsen MA is a psychology and freelance author living in British Columbia. His popular Ebook, Proven Secrets for Attracting your Soulmate has helped people find that special someone since 2000.

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Although online personals might seem like an ideal meeting ground to connect with singles, it is advisable to take things slow when taking an online relationship to the next level.

The natural progression of meeting someone through online gay personals is a blind date. It is prudent to ask as many detailed questions about the individual as possible before setting up a date. Sometimes, the person on the other end of the PC may not be who he claims to be. If you see any warning signs like inconsistencies or just a bad gut feel, drop him instantly.

Speak on the telephone prior to a first date. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they converse. If you get a bad feeling after the dialogue or realize that you may not be a good match after all, there is time to back out. And, for your own safety, never disclose any personal information that a stranger could use to take advantage of you; this includes your address, place of work, or other sensitive information that could help him to track you down.

Picking a mutually comfortable meeting place alleviates tension and gives you both the option of leaving a date midway. Always meet in a place where you can have a conversation, but with a lot of people around, perhaps at a popular restaurant or pub.

In most cases, things would go well from a safety perspective. However, there are a lot of psychopaths out there. To safeguard yourself against potential harm, leave a trail of where you’re meeting him, and any changes in location thereafter, with a close friend. This may seem taxing, but ensures your safety.

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