by Dean Cortez, best-selling author and dating coach

 >>> Question From Dirk, Chicago

Dear Dean,

I’m in love with a stripper. Yeah, I know, I’m probably asking for trouble (and a depleted bank account). Seriously though, she’s a really cool chick. The problem is, she’s got another guy in her life that she can’t shake.

They dated for years, broke up a bunch of times, got back together, broke up “for good” when she busted him sleeping with her best friend… and now, while I’m trying to get something going with her, I suspect she might still be seeing him on the side.

I’m a good guy. I treat women with respect. But this keeps happening to me. The girls I dig always seem to have a thing for creeps. 

 >>> My Comments:

This is a question we get all the time. What is it about “jerks” and “creeps” that hot women find so alluring? With so many nice guys out there willing to treat them like princesses, why do they get so deeply attached to “bad boys?”

What you need to understand is, women aren’t attracted to the fact that these men are self-centered or arrogant. They’re attracted, on an deep subconscious level, to certain BEHAVIORIAL traits that bad boys exhibit. Here are the big three:

Bad Boys are independent.

They lead their own lives and fit women into their schedule, not the other way around. Women, by nature, want what they can’t have—and bad boys present a challenge and sense of mystery. 

Bad Boys are decisive.

They’re never wishy-washy. Women love a man who isn’t afraid to lead; a leader who confronts situations is a man who is capable of fulfilling the most core female need, which is to feel protected. You’ll never hear a bad boy say, “So do you want to hang out sometime?” Or, “what do you feel like doing tonight?” Bad boys are men on the move.

They’ve always got plans in motion. And women want to go along for the ride.

Bad boys don’t wear their emotions on their sleeve.

Aristotle, a mack among ancient Greek philosophers, once said: “He who confesses first, loses.” Pouring out your feelings to a girl might seem like a sweet romantic gesture, but in reality it usually blows you out of the water.

When a girl hasn’t made up her mind about you, and you make it clear you’re totally into her, you seem needy and you’re no longer a challenge.

Bad boys keep women guessing: is he really into me, or is he playing games?

How many other girls does he have in his life right now? This triggers the female
competitive instinct and makes them want a guy that much more. 

The Mack is essentially a nice guy with a “bad boy edge” to his personality. Respect women, treat them right, but understand how to trigger the same female instincts that bad boys use to drive women wild.

Check out this site for some MIND BLOWING information on this:

http://www.bulletproofseduction.com/stripper

 >>> Question From KJ

I asked a girl out recently and she told me she wasn’t ready to date anyone new. She explained that her ex, Tony, was a psycho and she had to get a restraining order on him. How can I convince her I’m nothing like Tony?

 >>> My Comments:

First off, you just mentioned the dude’s name twice in oneparagraph. Which means you’ve probably had conversations with her about “Tony,” and why she deserves better than “Tony,” and so on…

Never refer to her ex by name! This is a rule. Refer to him as “that guy” or “that dude.” This dimishes his significance. Saying his name out loud, when talking about him with her, triggers emotions and memories. 

While you never want to get into extended discussions with women about their ex-boyfriends — you want to keep things focused on the present, and on you and her — knowing the types of guys she’s dated in the past can provide valuable Intell.

This is especially true when she dated a wack dude, since you can now present yourself as the opposite of him.

There are three main categories of wack ex-boyfriends:

1 - The Stalker.

When the relationship ended, this pathetic head case couldn’t let go. When macking a girl who had a stalker ex, you must present yourself as the “anti stalker.” Be extra careful about saying or doing anything that show “clinginess.”

Don’t accompany her everywhere. If you call her to chat, she should be the one calling you next time. When she calls you to invite you out, don’t always accept the invite. Try saying, “I’m just going to chill tonight. You go ahead and have a
girl’s night out. Have a great time. Call me tomorrow and let me know how it went.”

Make it a habit to give her space and let her know you’ve got other things going on in your life—unlike the stalker, whose entire world revolved around her.

2 - The Loser.

He was broke, couldn’t hold a job, or simply had no ambitions or direction in life. Become the opposite in her eyes by mentioning things, or goals in your life that you are passionate about. Women are turned on by passionate men.  It’s a quality that losers lack. 

3 - The Commitaphobe.

This guy refused to commit to her. Maybe he dumped her at the altar; maybe he was never willing to be monogamous. With this type of girl, demonstrate how important commitment is to you.

Use the word. Don’t say “I’d love to have my own business someday.” Say, “I’m very commited to launching my own business soon.” Don’t say, “I’m close with my family.” Say, “I’m really committed to my family. They’ve always been there for me, and I’m always there for them.” A guy who values commitment is a guy she can imagine being commited to her.
 
Also, no matter how much of a jackass her ex-boyfriend sounds like, refrain from making disaparaging comments about him.

Remember, at one point in time she had serious feelings for him. Dissing him is basically the same as dissing her, and her judgement. Instead, make him seem irrelevant and not even worth discussing. “It sounds like that guy didn’t appreciate all the great things I’m seeing in you.”

Then move the conversation onto a more pleasant topic. Keep things focused on the present and on future possibilities. “That guy” is boring, irrelevant, ancient history.

A final notes on exes: whenever the topic comes up, women are invariably going to ask you about your romantic past and “what happened” between you and your ex.

This is a minefield you do not want to stumble into. No matter how it ended between you and your ex, your explanation is probably going to make you look bad. If she was a nutcase, then it makes you look like you’ve got terrible taste in women.

If she dumped you, it makes you look lame. And if you broke up with her, for whatever reason, it makes you look callous.

Just give a vague answer about your past relationship and reinforce in her mind that you’re both unattached now—and that the future is wide open. “We had a lot of good times together, but in the end, it just wasn’t meant to be.

I think it’s a good thing that you and me are both single now, and back on the scene.”

Now, move the conversation onto a fun topic that leaves the exes in the past—where they belong.

…are you with me here?

Right now you’re probably thinking to yourself:

“Wow, that’s interesting. I sure wish there was a resource available that could show me hundreds of great ideas like that… so I could know exactly what to do from when I first these types of women (exotic dancers, strippers, basically SUPER attractive women who get hit on by men A LOT)  to the first date… all the way up until we get physical and beyond…”

Guess what?

It’s right here:

http://www.bulletproofseduction.com/stripper

And before I forget, if you are in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or even beyond, and you want to hook up with hot young women, have you ever felt any of these before?:

- “I don’t know how to talk to younger women…”

- “I want younger women, but I’m afraid I’d feel bad about
myself if I went after them…”

- “I’m afraid I’d seem creepy, or immature if I went after
younger women,” and…

- “I don’t want to look like a fool, or be laughed at.”

If you’ve felt “stopped” with younger women, for ANY reason, I HIGHLY recommend you check this out:

http://www.bulletproofseduction.com/younger

Talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

Dean Cortez

adult webcams

Online dating has been a huge success in the past. All too often though, users were posting either outdated photos or photos of someone else that portrayed them in a more appealing way to other users. Thanks to live webcams, this is no longer a problem. The online dating scene has been revolutionized by video webcams because of this and web cam chat rooms have become one of the most popular features of modern dating websites.

Web cam dating has become the mainstay of modern courtship. It is especially useful for those people who are shy and anxious about meeting anyone in person. Dating sites that feature live webcams help people feel more secure because they are able to interact more openly within the confines of their own home. Since they are in their comfort zone, they are able to have a more realistic experience. Video webcams allow users to develop friendships before making the decision to meet.

There are many advantages of using video webcams on dating sites. For one thing, you choose how much information to give out, and you set the scene for your online encounter. Much like preparing for a date, you can turn on some music, dim the lights and get dressed up. Online dating has gone mainstream, in part because of the use of web cam chat rooms. It has lost most of the social stigma it once had and now people of all walks of life are embracing it.

Adult webcams offer a distinctive selection of options. Whether you want to make a new friend, flirt, find the love of your life or have a sexual encounter, these options are all possible with web cam chat rooms. It doesn’t matter what you are looking for, a webcam can create a much more intimate and realistic experience than just reading profiles, viewing pictures and exchanging messages.

Before you decide to use video web cam online dating sites, always investigate the sites that interest you before you become a member. Read their privacy policies and familiarize yourself with their search limitations. Make sure that their payment methods and your personal information is kept secure. See if they screen their applicants before accepting them as members.

Safety is a big issue. You should be relatively safe if you take a few precautions when you use live webcams for online dating. Always keep any personal information out of sight of the camera. Never reveal any personal information, like your phone number, address or last name. It is acceptable to only use your first name or a moniker you have chosen to go by. When you use the internet as a tool in your dating arsenal, you should always take steps to protect yourself to ensure a fun and safe experience.

Mystery Method Magic Bullets Review

There has been a lot of stir about the seduction method known as the Mystery Method. I was able to have a quick look at the guide that teaches men how to seduce women in real life! Lucky for you guys reading this post because you’ll get a quick breakdown about what it is all about!

The Mystery Method Magic Bullets guide tells you that there are three main stages to the Mystery Method.

Stage 1 - Attraction

This is where the seducer causes the woman to like him by triggering attraction switches inside her head. The attraction switches that the pickup artist wants to set off are directly related to his survival and social value as a man.

Stage 2 - Comfort

It is important to understand that the seducer will need to share an emotional connection with the woman at this stage. In this phase it is important to let the woman feel that you two share something special and that you like her more than because she’s cute.

Step 3 - Seduction and Closing

This is the final stage of the Mystery Method. This section is where the seducer starts escalating the interaction towards a sexual zone and is no longer just being friendly. The girl at this phase will most likely objecto to the sexual encounter and offer some last minute resistance. It is at this place the seducer will need to overcome her objections in a non physical or threatening way and smoothly move around her defenses and complete the objective of sex.

The Mystery Method is one of the most structured seduction methods as you can see. Most guys would appreciate the structured organization of the Mystery Method because they are left brain thinkers.

I have been able to review the Magic Bullets Handbook that teaches guys the Mystery Method and how to use it. Check it out for yourself: Magic Bullets Review.

 

Online dating has reached such levels of recognition that it is now becoming more satisfactory than it used to. In truth, thanks to the countless stories about successful relations that started as an internet partnership, folk are turning to this alternative way of looking out for a partner. If you’re new to the idea or you have been online for years, one key to online dating success is your profile. When you are online people perceive you as you announce on your profile. The 1st way to make a stand out profile is to come up with a familiar profile title and screen name. This is generally what folk see first. So put, your focus into a attention grabber. So that you can get that perfect horse loving match. However, elude being a copy pussy.

I have found the best site to match people up with others that have a similar love for horseshorse dating

Instead, be original. This may also serve you very well in the long run.

If you share with the world who you truly are inside. There’ll be no need to lie when you go to meet your special someone. before you start to write that title, think real real hard about how you perceive yourself and how your mates see you. Try and remember what they assert are your best qualities.

Select the ones you agree with, and then write them down. Don’t ramble on and on. As for your screen name, the same applies. It might take you a little whilst to come up with something but it is going to be worth your effort. Whether to put a photograph or not? That is the question. Some people tend not to be comfortable with putting their footage on the Internet. The explanation is this : my appearance shouldn’t matter people should love me for the fact that I love horses alone. That is well and good. However, online dating web sites testify to the proven fact that folks who include a flattering photograph in their profiles get replies eight times more than those that don’t.

If you need to get more replies, then have a picture taken from your most flattering angle and include it in your profile.

Emphasise your unique traits. What makes you different? Help the other person understand you a little bit. Be detailed solely to the point of avoiding obscurity. It is fine for you to give some private information but desist from being too private. It is not necessarily the greatest idea to start spewing all of the issues and problems that you have been dealing with. Make your expectancies clear. What do you want out of a relationship? Is this merely a fling or something more stable? Mention what the other person can expect from you too. Talk about your hobbies and things that you want to do with your other half.

You’re probably thinking to yourself right now, what is the best site to go to define someone that loves horses As much as I dohorse dating

by Dean Cortez

One of the questions I am most frequently asked by guys is, “How can I get more confident around women?”

I believe that building self confidence is done through steady and incremental success.

Learn a solid technique, apply it, and the “small victories” you will achieve will naturally boost your confidence level.

For example, if you learn my techniques for approaching women, and you start making successful approaches, then you’re naturally going to feel more confident about doing it.

In the Alpha Rules book you’ll learn my technique for getting a girl’s phone number, and you’ll start racking up phone numbers with no problem. Very soon, you’ll feel quite confident in this area. Building self confidence will then occur naturally.

But if you truly want to possess bulletproof confidence in EVERY area, first I want to ask you one very important question:

When it comes to women, do you believe in ABUNDANCE, or do you believe in SCARCITY?

This is the key factor that separates “bulletproof players” from average, frustrated chumps who make excuses, instead of getting results.

Guys who have a scarcity mentality believe that single, attractive women are in very short supply.

Therefore, these guys feel they need to chase women, try to impress them, and spend money. Once they’re into a girl, they’ll do anything it takes to date them!

And if the girl rejects this guy, he feels frustrated and depressed, because he worries that he won’t get another chance anytime soon. He tells himself that he “blew it”…

Then, there are guys like Carlos Xuma and I, who believe in ABUNDANCE.

We know that the universe has provided us with an endless supply of fun, sexy, single women.

We know that wherever we may currently live, and the places where we hang out, contain any number of great options for having fun and meeting girls.

Personally, I love to travel. I know that when I jump on a plane and explore a new scene, my options go from good to virtually LIMITLESS!

The guy with the “abundance attitude” guy knows there are literally an ENDLESS number of women who want to be with him!

And therefore, there is no reason to worry, or stress out, about finding a girlfriend RIGHT NOW, or chasing the “one girl” that you’ve been pining for.

The world is FILLED with opportunities.

It is essential that you develop this abundance mentality … and then, you need to know how to talk to girls in the most effective way.

The irony of having the abundance mentality is it means YOU become SCARCE to women.

Most women have an incredibly scarce mentality when it comes to men. They say, “all the good men are already married, or gay.”

Well, it’s time for you to blow their minds with the techniques you’ll find in our book, The Alpha Rules

But first, you’ve got to make women feel that YOU are a scarce resource.

You can be into a girl…but don’t let her know it. You’ve got to play “hard to get.” This is essential for building self confidence.

In other words, she should feel lucky to meet a guy like you — a guy who is charming, funny, interesting, and cool — but who doesn’t play the dating game by the traditional “rules.”

Being a scarce resource to women means:

• You don’t give a woman all of your time and attention.

• You don’t lavish gifts on her, or spend more than $30 on a date. Meeting up with her for a drink, or coffee, is a lot more effective than taking her out to a restaurant.)

• You’re not available to talk to her on the phone or chat on the internet for an hour every day, or see her any night of the week that she’s free to see you.

Once you start getting to know women and getting them attracted to you, and then limiting your availability, so they don’t always have access to you, you’ll be amazed by how much harder these girls are going compete for your attention and your affection.

This is what the girls want. A guy who is a CHALLENGE.

There’s a phrase that salesmen and marketers use, which is called “perceived value.” This means is if you create the perception that your product is scarce and in short supply — whether it’s true or not — people are going to want it that much more.

I’ll give you an example. A while back, I was interested in attending a seminar on how to make money in real estate. I live in Las Vegas, and there are lots of seminars like this coming to town. I went online and I find out about two.

The website for seminar #1 said the ticket cost was $999, and there were only two seats left — so reserve now!

The website for seminar #2 was only charging $79, and mentioned nothing about availability. It just asked you to sign up and purchase your seat.

Obviously, I was far more curious about the $999 seminar. There were only two seats left (at least, that’s what they were saying) — so in my primal animal brain, that seminar immediately had much greater value.

I figured that spending more money on an elite seminar would get me better results than spending a lot less money on a seminar that didn’t seem to be in demand.

You see examples of this sales tactic all the time. And it works, because scarcity creates perceived value.
 
With women, you want to be the “scarce and valuable guy.” The busier you appear to be, and the richer your social life seems, the more value women will place on you. And the easier building self confidence becomes. 

If she calls you on the phone to chat, and you tell her you can only talk for a minute because you’re heading out the door to a birthday party for your friend Jennifer, she’ll know that you’ve got other options. You know other women. You don’t NEED to put all of your eggs in one basket.

And guess what. The girl on the phone? Her jealous, competitive instincts are now kicking in. You are a guy she wants to win because she sees you as a scarce, valuable resource. She’s not the only girl trying to spend time with you!

Maybe the ultimate example of what I’m talking about is the diamond industry. It’s a multi-billion industry built entirely on an illusion of perceived value.

How “valuable” is a diamond, really? They’re tiny crystals of carbon, that’s all! Sure, they’re shiny and pretty, but no one ever needed a diamond until the people controlling the industry teamed up with the world’s top advertising agency… and managed to convince us all that diamonds are the ultimate symbol of eternal romance.

(”Diamonds are forever…” “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend…” etc.)

If you loved a woman and wanted to marry her, now you had to shell out thousands of dollars for a diamond ring. She expected nothing less! 

At the same time, the mining and production of diamonds is tightly regulated and controlled… so that demand will always far exceed supply.

The diamond cartels that control the industry in South Africa continue to pay millions of dollars to advertising agencies which force-feed women the notion that diamonds are incredibly rare, special, and romantic.

(Of course, once diamonds became this ultimate “status symbol,” all the rappers and pro athletes jumped on the bandwagon as well… which also encourages all the wanna-be’s to spend absurd amounts of money on diamond chains and earrings, since it means they’re “somebody.”)

Think about it. Perceived value. Do women view you as a diamond, or are you just one of a million ordinary stones they’d find on any beach?

Are you with me?

Good…

I want you to STOP being the average guy who takes the “scarcity” attitude. It’s time for you to start building self confidence.

The guy who meets a girl, and things seem to go well, but then she starts acting cold towards him… distant… NOT returning phone calls and emails… and so he starts to freak out and get depressed…

He’s desperate to get the girl back, to lock her down and make her his girlfriend… and what happens in these situations — nine out of ten times — is she runs in the other direction!

Why? Because once a guy has telegraphed his interest… and she perceives that he’s just another average, single guy who’s got no other options… and nothing much else going on in his life… she knows he lacks value.

Instead of this, you need to be the PRIZE that women seek to CAPTURE.

You charm them, make them feel attraction, and then you make them work to earn your time and attention.

When you’re talking to girls, you “tease” them instead of agreeing with everything they say.

When they want to see you, you’re NOT always available.

Then when you are with her, you will seem like a guy who has plenty of female options… but you’re giving her a chance to measure up to your standards.

And you’re not going to make it easy on ‘em

Once you master this mindset, The Alpha Rules contains dozens of tips & techniques on how to meet and attract women that are absolutely MIND BLOWING.

So remember: building self confidence begins with learning the right strategies, which we will provide. Then, as you start applying these techniques and experiencing a new level of success, your confidence level will rise naturally. And, you’ll have a lot of FUN — and good times — in the process.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez